Reception Style | ModFem 2016

ModFem 2016 is quickly approaching! Today is actually the deadline for registration, however, if you still would like to attend, please do not hesitate to contact us!

As we prepare for this year’s Bridal Edition, we wanted to share some reception attire for you ladies:) During the Closing Celebration next weekend at ModFem, we will be celebrating with a reception. Who doesn’t love to have a good time, right? So why not tie in a party to our Bridal-themed weekend?!

Here are 3 different looks, created by yours truly:)

 

Reception with Tiffany: for a classy, sophisticated look.

ModFem Fashion

Vintage Hop Reception: retro class.

ModFem Fashion

Country Chic Reception: stylish, yet still dressy:)

ModFem Fashion

Each of us has our own style…we just have to be sure that we are respecting our bodies (and our hearts) when we present ourselves. These looks aren’t set in stone for how your style should be at the ModFem reception…just some fun suggestions. I can’t wait to see you all next weekend!

Megan

I love Pinterest

contributed by Megan Bryant

Pinterest is quite the addictive site. I often find myself drooling over gorgeous kitchens and living spaces, food, and of course clothes!!

I started a specific board with my ModFem ladies in mind, called Modest is Hottest. I create outfits on Polyvore and then publish them onto this board. It’s fun to play around with, so if you love fashion, I highly recommend it! There is a Polyvore app too:) You’re welcome!

This is one of my latest creations, simple but appropriate for this season:) The boots are my fave!

 

Baby Its Cold Outside

 

Stirred, but not Shaken

Another school year is upon us and with it so many uncertainties. We wonder what subjects we will be conquering, and what social obstacles we will be encountering. We dread test dates and imagine homecoming dates and plan study dates. We count all the days between now and Thanksgiving break, and then all the days until Christmas.

But do we count ourselves blessed?

If you know Jesus as your best friend, you are blessed. As you walk through each year of your life, He walks with you. This doesn’t spare us a human existence, no matter how much we wish it would. As Christians, we still feel the pains of this world. We feel embarrassed and alone, anxious and afraid, unworthy and overlooked, but not the way that an unsaved person does. We have our doubts. We have our strife. Yet we do not wander into hopelessness. We do not stumble into total despair. Even at the bottom of our lowest pits, we still have the Lord of all Lords and the King of all Kings as our ever-present helper and guide. That should be something to smile about.

The real question here does not concern your salvation. If you’re reading our ModFem page, we’re 90% sure that you’ve already asked Christ into your heart and into your life. No, the real question for you, ambassador of the Lord, is: are you shaken or stirred? As you look at the condition of the people around you, what do you see? It doesn’t take much to be shaken by the evils that are ravaging our culture.

Statistics tell us that you, as an average American student, know AT LEAST one person who has been abused, mutilated themselves, given away their purity, used alcohol or drugs, cried themselves to sleep or has never had enough food in the fridge. For those without faith, seeing the wreckage caused by sin would shake them to their core—but it may not result in any effort to rectify the wrongs.

For those who live by faith, we should be stirred into loving action. Love is a verb, after all, and to love one another is to act upon our concern and compassion. Jesus taught in James 2:14 that if we say we have love for those who are hurting, but do not follow up our concern with actions of care, our faith is not just useless—it’s dead. No one among us should go without the basics needed for life: food, shelter, clothing and—I would argue—love.

Every day that the Lord blesses you with is an opportunity to be stirred up. Let your heart be stirred into action by the people around you. Take a chance this week. It doesn’t have to be some big gesture. It can be something small, but get started now. Make eye contact and smile at someone. Give your soda to someone who is obviously having a bad day. Be the quiet kid’s lab partner. Ask the new student to sit with you at lunch. Invite someone who often gets left out to your next birthday party or sleepover.

Don’t let the worries and struggles of this world shake your faith. Let the needs of those around you stir you into action!

Breezy

Promzilla: How Going Viral Cheapens Love

Breezy had something on her heart that she wanted to share…and I love it. PLEASE read this!!

“The tide of social media is rising everyday. We’re being drowned by a culture where bigger is better and viral is best. We’re living for the likes, the shares, the re-Tweets and the re-Pins. What better evidence of this phenomenon amongst high school-age kids than the promposal?

If you’re like me, the idea of a promposal is completely insane. Every girl in my high school (whether she admitted it or not) just wanted to be asked! The marching band didn’t join in, costumes and banners were nowhere to be seen, and celebrity cameos weren’t involved.

Being asked to prom was a brief, shining moment when a guy put his heart in a girl’s hands and blurted out, “doyouwannagotopromwithme?” If she wanted to, she said yes. And that was it.

But that’s not it anymore. These days, a guy is under pressure to stage some kind of spectacle when asking that special someone to a dance. It sounds like a sweet thing to do. Most girls want to be on the receiving end of such a gratifying display of affection. Yet, there’s a major problem brewing just beneath the surface.

Promposals are distorting true love.

To be fair, I do not speak from experience. I can’t remember how my then-boyfriend asked me to prom. That’s how insignificant it was during prom season 2005. The only proposal I’ve received I do remember, however, with absolute clarity.

In 2006, when we were both 19 years old, my beloved took me out to dinner. When the time came, he got down on one knee with his grandmother’s ring in his pocket. He looked into my eyes as he took my hand and asked me to marry him. When I said yes, the three other people in the Pizza Hut clapped and whistled.

Did you catch that?

My husband asked me to marry him in a Pizza Hut while a trio of strangers looked up from their cheesy stuffed crusts.

A PIZZA HUT.

There are no pictures or videos of this. I’m pretty sure no one other than me and my husband remember it happened at all. When our little living room wedding followed that Pizza Hut proposal, my heart was completely satisfied. The only expectation I had for my wedding day was to be married by the end of the night. Any other wonderful things that came our way were just unexpected blessings.

I married my man for love—not for a Vine worthy proposal, or an Instagram ceremony, or a Pinterest inspired reception, or a Tweetable honeymoon. I can still say that it was the simplest and best decision I ever made.

After we said “I do”, months passed and we were at each other’s throats. With Jesus as the center of our relationship, we could always find our way back to just being those two kids who wanted a marriage more than a proposal, and a life together more than a wedding. When things went wrong, I didn’t have “the perfect proposal” or “the perfect wedding” to compare it to. The sweet things my new husband did for me stood on their own, not in the shadow of all the elaborate, extravagant, fantastical things he had done before.

Turns out, there is something to be said for having low expectations.

Are we watering down God’s intention for love by splashing it all over the internet, by measuring it’s worth by how many times strangers click on a little thumbs up icon? Ask the Lord to show you the dreams He put in your heart and how He wants you and your future husband to fulfill them.

If you decide to find joy in the simple moments—-like how thrilling it is when he holds your hand, how amazing his smile is, or how your heart soars when he prays with you and for you—you’ll be much more satisfied with God’s plan.

You and the things your sweetheart does for you are special, whether the internet knows about it or not.”

Breezy

Mothers.

This week, we have a special guest blogger…Breezy! You ModFem attendees will remember her as our worship leader:) She will be popping in from time to time on the blog, so be sure to thank her for that! Now, on to her post:

“Long before we even meet the man we want to see at the altar on our wedding day, our mothers are our very first “for better or for worse.” In return, we do our best to honor and obey them. Whether we’re cooperating or not, they pour their lives into guiding us. This usually entails them giving us heaps of advice on our choices (even if we haven’t had the chance to make them yet).

There’s one subject of such particular importance that it can keep them going for hours…days…weeks…indeed, our entire adolescence. It can be summed up with just four letters:

B-O-Y-S.

I am 28 years old, celebrating my 8th wedding anniversary, and my mother is still talking to me about boys. At this stage, we’ve transitioned to men, but the point is the same. She will never ever stop giving me her best advice on the male species. Why? Because she knows how frustrating, and amazing, and irritating, and glorious guys can be. She fusses over my love life because she loves me.

For more than a decade now my “man-space” (a term coined by Dowling Payne in this fabulous article) has been occupied by the man whom I am blessed to call my husband. My mom has accepted his permanent residence in my man-space, yielding her keeping of my heart to him.

What, exactly, is man-space? It’s that portion of every female brain dedicated to the boy/man/guy who occupies her thoughts. According to Ms. Payne’s mother, every girl’s man-space is like a five-star hotel located somewhere in her hypothalamus. Spending the afternoon getting to know a guy is done in the lobby or the cafe of your brain. Inviting him into your man-space—your suite—is a serious step. It’s intimate and special. If you let him move in, ladies, he should be the Raja to your Taj Mahal. The King Louis XIV to your Versailles. The Prince William to your Buckingham Palace.

Our mothers are insistent on us guarding our hearts because of this simple truth: any long-term guy who checks out (or gets kicked out) of your man-space will inevitably do two things—leave baggage behind and take a few of your treasures. Give over the keys to your man-space carefully. Not every guy who makes your heart flutter is meant to take up residence. Only one man is intended by God to stay.

This Mother’s Day, celebrate your mom. She is the one who first held you, stood by you in good times and bad, cared for you in sickness and health, first loved you and still cherishes you. How does your mother know this? She’s been there herself. And she’s with you in it now, giving each guy you invite into the lobby of your brain a careful once over. Let her be your doorman.”

Breezy

Purpose | Post 3 | The Final Post

Thanks for joining me for the final post in my Purpose series. The last benefit of purpose-driven living, according to Warren, is:

5. Knowing your purpose prepares you for eternity.

Eternity…do you know how long that it? It’s FOREVER. We spend so much time worrying about the now and tomorrow…and getting involved with as much as we can and accomplishing as many things as possible. We want to leave an imprint in this world…but most of the time, the focus of that imprint is in the wrong place. We want to be remembered for our time here and for the things that we did here, after we are gone…but really, we should be preparing NOW for LATER. Rick Warren states in his book What On Earth Am I Here For? that “living to create an earthly legacy is a shortsighted goal. A wiser use of time is to build an eternal legacy. You weren’t put on earth to be remembered. You were put here to prepare for eternity.”

Wow. Read that again…”You weren’t put on earth to be remembered. You were put here to prepare for eternity.” I remember having a conversation with Mrs. Courtney at this year’s ModFem retreat about this very subject. I have never really thought about it the way that she described. She told me that we were made for eternity. Our bodies here on earth are just dust, and will age and fade away, but our spirits were made for so much more that anything this world can offer. We were made to last forever! I don’t know about you, but the things and ways of this world make that difficult for me to grasp. I have often thought of what things would be like here after I leave this world—will I be missed? Will my family be ready to move on without me? Will my kids have a firm foundation to build upon without me here? I can rest my thoughts because I know that it is all in God’s hands. He will take care of my children…because they are his children too! We ALL are his children, and he wants so much more for us that just the things of this pathetic world. He has gone to prepare a place for us, and place far more amazing than anything we could ever imagine. And I know that if I can live a life of purpose, the purpose that He has intended for me, that I will be able to join Him in that amazing place called heaven.

How do we get ready for that day?
Warren says that “one day you will stand before God, and He will do  an audit of your life, a final exam, before you enter eternity. The Bible says, “Remember, each of us will stand personally before the judgement seat of God….Yes, each of us will have to give a personal account to God.” (Romans 14:10b, 12 NLT) Fortunately, God wants us to pass this test, so he has given us the questions in advance. From the Bible we can surmise that God will ask us two crucial questions: 

1. What did you do with my Son, Jesus Christ? The only thing that will matter is, did you accept what Jesus did for you and did you learn to love and trust him? Jesus said, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” (John 14:6 NIV)

2. What did you do with what I gave you?  What did you do with your life–all the gifts, talents, opportunities, energy, relationships, and resources God gave you? Did you spend them on yourself, or did you use them for the purposes God made you for?” 

There now, you know the questions for your final exam…how you choose to live your life affects how you will answer those questions once your judgement day comes. Judgement day sounds kinda harsh, doesn’t it? Even though that pretty much sums up what it will be, you can think of it as your Orientation Day, if you will. You know, like the day you spend at a new school or college, looking around, getting to see how things will be? Well, your judgement day is kinda like that, except you will be held accountable for the way you lived on earth. The only way you can move on and “get in” to those pearly gates is if you have earned it. No top college will accept a high school drop out…you have to earn your place to get into the best of the best.

So, ask yourself, do you know your purpose? If so, live toward the goals of fulfilling that purpose so that you can spend eternity with our Savior! If you do not know what your purpose is or have feelings of uncertainty, contact me. I would love to chat with you or direct you to someone who can help meet your needs. But I will tell you this, your purpose is always FOR GOD. If your life isn’t being lived in a manner that would please God, then you are on the wrong path.

Grace and Peace to you!
Megan

The Purpose series has utilized the text by Rick Warren, What On Earth Am I Here For? (also known as The Purpose Driven Life). If you have not read this book, I strongly encourage you to get a copy. It is so relevant to our lives and where we stand…get a physical copy so that you can make notes and underline all of the nuggets of truth between those covers!

Purpose | Post 2

…to continue with the previous post which explores our purpose, with references from Rick Warren’s book What on Earth Am I Here For?, I would like to cover the following:

3. Knowing your purpose focuses your life.

4. Knowing your purpose motivates your life.

When we know our purpose, we can center our focus and place our concentration on goals to reach our purpose. Warren says “you become effective by being selective.” Love that little nugget there…I am all about effectiveness and efficiency, probably too much. I love it when I can get a task done in a timely manner or by using an efficient method of doing it. It’s like a little achievement…trophy worthy? No. But it makes me feel good:)
As humans, we love to try new things and if things get tough we often prefer to change directions. According to Warren, “there is nothing quite as potent as a focused life, one lived on purpose. The men and women who have made the greatest difference in history were the most focused.”

Don’t live carelessly, unthinkingly. Make sure you understand what the Master wants.” Ephesians 5:17 (MSG)

If you want your life to make a difference, focus it! Get a grasp on your purpose! A very important note that Warren makes is “never confuse activity with productivity. You can be busy without a purpose, but what’s the point?” In the words of Paul: “Let’s keep focused on that goal, those of us who want everything God has for us.” -Phillipians 3:15 (MSG)
FOCUS.

Knowing your purpose motivates your life. I am one of those people who requires motivation for many things…like working out. I don’t wake up in the morning and crave jumping around in my living room so I can get all sweaty. Eww. No, I’m one of those people who needs a coach and an accountability partner and a motivation group. But once I get that little boost of motivation, I’m ready to get crankin! I workout, and I get energized and ready to take on my day! I love my workouts, but that energy doesn’t last forever. I have to do it all over again the next day to get rejuvenated. According to Warren, “nothing energizes like a clear purpose.” Once we know our purpose, it produces PASSION. And that passion will drive us on to fulfill our purpose in Christ.
Get motivated!

Stay tuned for the final post on Purpose.

Megan

Purpose | Post 1

What are you here for? What am I here for? Do we have a purpose? Of course, we do!! I know that as a teenager, that purpose can be vague at times, and even unimaginable. We often feel insignificant in this world full of people with so many beliefs, ideas, and opinions.

I’ve been reading What On Earth Am I Here For? (the revised version of The Purpose Driven Life) by Rick Warren. It’s such a great read if you can snag a copy…yes, get it in print so you can make notes and underline all the good nuggets within those pages:) Rick discusses 5 great benefits to living a purpose-driven life.

1. Knowing your purpose gives meaning to your life.

2. Knowing your purpose simplifies your life.

3. Knowing your purpose focuses your life.

4. Knowing your purpose motivates your life.

5. Knowing your purpose prepares you for eternity.

I won’t discuss them all in this post, but I do want to cover the first 2. We all live our lives for something, for some it’s more apparent than others. According  to Mark, “we were made to have meaning…when life has meaning, you can bear almost anything; without it, nothing is bearable.” Have you ever set a goal? And working toward that goal gave you a drive, right? You have your eyes set on the prize and you just won’t stop til you’ve crossed the finish line.

“Without God, life has no purpose, and without purpose, life has no meaning. Without meaning, life has no significance or hope.” -Rick Warren

Hope is crucial for us all…without hope, there is no moving on, looking up, or pressing forward. It is essential. I’m sure we have all felt hopeless at some time or another. In Christ, there is no hopelessness. Trust in him and know that he put you here for a purpose much greater than anything on this earth. Warren states “wonderful changes are going to happen in your life as you begin to live it on purpose.”

One of my favorite passages of scripture comes from Jeremiah 29:11. “”For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”” What a great thought…

Knowing your purpose simplifies your life. When you know what your purpose is, it affects all other aspects/decisions/choices in your life. You aren’t going to participate in things that are meaningless to you or pointless toward your purpose. Would an Olympic swimmer spend a few hours each day training on the tennis court? Doubtful. Would a wedding planner choose to order roses despite the fact that their client requested daisies? Of course not! We will live our lives toward our purpose…our focus should be on that and not on the numerous distractions in this world.

Warren said something that I absolutely loved, so simple yet so overlooked sometimes. “It is impossible to do everything people want you to do. You have just enough time to do God’s will. If you can’t get it all done, it means that you’re trying to do more than God intended for you to do (or possibly, that you’re watching too much television).” When you live for your purpose (God’s purpose for you), the rest falls into place. So simple. Simpler lifestyle…simpler schedule…simpler everything. Room to breathe. Sigh. I’m feeling better already!

I don’t know about you, but my schedule is pretty intense sometimes. I get burnt out, stressed, etc. I have to remind myself to “stop and smell the roses.”

My challenge for us is to sit down and think about what the driving force of your life is right now. Now ask yourself, what do I want it to be?

Some of you may be familiar with this song, but listen and watch anyways. Read the lyrics as he sings…such a great lyric.

Be sure to check back for the next Purpose post…

-Megan

Preparing for Resurrection Sunday

Tomorrow is Easter Sunday for a lot of people, but Resurrection Sunday for me. How about you? Are you celebrating with eggs, candy, and a giant bunny OR are you rejoicing in our risen Savior who was hung on a cross so that we may be forgiven of our many, MANY sins?

I mean, sure, I have kids…we enjoy egg hunts and candy…I personally don’t do Easter bunny photos. But our focus isn’t on those things, it’s on Jesus. I want my kids to know and understand that Jesus loves them so much and that he went to the cross for us. I know that they’re really young and don’t fully understand, but they’re never too young to start learning…

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“According to the laws of legal evidence used in courts of law, there is more evidence for the historical fact of the resurrection of Jesus Christ than for just about any other event in history.” (Harvard Law Professor Dr. Simon Greenleaf)

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“I am the resurrection and the life.  Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?” (John 11:25-26)

I hope that you do believe that. I know that as a teenager, I read/heard/listened to it…but I didn’t fully believe it. I want to put my trust in Jesus, not in the things of this world. I know it may seem like this world is all that matters to you right now, but please listen when I say that it will all fade. And you don’t have to die for that to happen…I am 26 now, and SO MUCH has faded.

Trust in Jesus, for when all else fails, he will be there. This weekend should be about rejoicing, for our Savior lives! HE LIVES! And he loves you, despite all of your flaws. He loves me even when I forget to do what is right. Where else will you find a love like that? This world will reject you when you mess up, Jesus comes with open arms.

“If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” (Romans 10:9)

Happy Resurrection weekend, friends! I love you, and Jesus does too!

-Megan

Good Grief

Psalms 77:2 In the day of my trouble I seek the Lord; in the night my hand is stretched out without wearying; my soul refuses to be comforted.

Dealing with grief can make or break a person. I’m sure you’ve heard “everyone deals with grief in their own way.” And that may be the case, but it’s important to not be destructive during those “dealings.” So how do we have “good” grief?

Today I lost a really good friend, Teresa. She was THE most positive person that I have ever known. She has been battling cancer for over 5 years, but not once was she ever negative. She was so vibrant and full of life, even in her weaker moments. Teresa was a huge inspiration. I take comfort in knowing that she is now with Jesus and living a much better life that she ever would have had here on Earth. She is the winner here, not us.

Psalms 116:15 Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his saints.

Sure, I have moments of selfishness, when I think to myself:
-why now?
-all she wanted to do was go home, why couldn’t she just have that one last wish??
-we had plans…

But then I remember, it’s not about ME. It’s about Jesus. And praise God that Teresa suffers no more. Praise the Lord that she doesn’t have to be subjected to the evils of this world as we do. She is so much better off than the rest of us. I know that Teresa is resting in an abundance of peace. We need not fear for her, for she is just fine in the arms of Jesus. We need to fear for us, for if your time were to come tomorrow, would you be in the arms of Jesus??

Teresa lived her life to the fullest…does that mean that she traveled all over the world, met famous people, etc? No. It means that she was happy no matter where she was, made friends with anyone she came across, and could delight in the simple things of life. When I found out this morning of her passing, I was ok. I can’t say that I had fully prepared myself for it, as I don’t think anyone really can. I kept busy this morning, trying not to dwell on it, knowing that it hadn’t really hit me yet. This afternoon, however, was full of tears as I remembered the good times, looked at pictures, and just thought about how hard this is for her family.

So how do you deal with grief? My suggestions for “good” grief:

1. Try to remember the good times instead of dwelling on the times to be missed.

2. Don’t shut your family and friends out, instead seek comfort in their presence. This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to pour your heart out, although that can sometimes help.

3. Seek comfort in Jesus. Read his Word, talk to him, pray for the others who are grieving with you.

4. Use the bad for good. Find some good that has come or can come from the situation.

Isaiah 41:10 fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

Teresa may not be here physically, but her spirit is really being shown through all of those who are remembering her life. She is sitting on my desk right now…beside me, in a frame that she painted for me:) We are laughing and goofing off…cause that’s what we did together.

This is from 2012:

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This is a photo I shot of her in June 2013:

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Teresa, I will miss you…and always think of you when I’m location scouting for photo sessions–you were always so good at that! And when I’m eating mexican food:)

See you soon, sweet girl!
Megan