2019 Speaker Spotlight: Haley Martin

Joining us for ModFem Classic this year is Haley Martin!

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Haley is 22 years old and lives in Lynchburg, VA. She recently graduated from Liberty University and is currently an Assistant Manager at Church Street Bridal. She loves to go thrift shopping, watch Disney movies, drink coffee, listen to music, and hang with friends during her free time! She is currently a member of a conference ministry called Woven Together and also hosts her own podcast called “Here’s the Thing” with Haley Martin. 

She will be speaking on how modesty is being confident in who God created you to be.

2017 Retreat: ModFem Warrior Princess

Hi ladies!!! We are SO pumped about this year’s retreat, which is quickly approaching!
This year’s rotation is Warrior Princess. This year’s retreat embodies the concept that
we as daughters of the King are indeed Princesses! As ambassadors for Christ, we princesses are part of a
kingdom that is at war. Join us as we prepare to fight on the battlefield that
is our broken world.

March 3-4
Camp Pitt
Girls grades 6-12

Special Guest: Jolie Osborne

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Can’t wait to see there!! Click “Registration” on the top navigation bar to get started!

Megan

Baggage Handlers, Unite!

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by Breezy Peterson

 

As human beings living in a messed up world, we all handle baggage.

We drag our own around. We help our friends sort through theirs. We watch our parents stuff their share of it into closets (after they shove the skeletons aside).

When we’re living in constant communion with Christ, we give Him our baggage. As soon as we make it, we hand it over. The problem arises when we get out of sync with Jesus, and start relying on ourselves instead of on Him.

You listened to me talk about baggage at MODFEM 2016. We focused mainly on The Dad Bags, but after collecting the paper suitcases that were tossed in front of the platform, I can easily say…we’re all dealing with way more than just Father Figure Issues.

Once the music was over and the gym was empty, I gathered up all of the paper suitcases. I expected to look through them and pray for mostly insignificant burdens, like annoying little sisters or not having an iPhone.

What I read literally knocked me over.

So I sat on the cold floor, my lap overflowing with broken hearts, wondering how it could be. Just minutes ago, I had been looking out on a crowd of eager faces unmarred by the stress and heartache that was written on those paper suitcases.

How often we see the quick smile and feel the squeeze of a half-hug and think—she’s fine! She’s got it together. If she needed help, she’d ask for it. But so much of what I read was nowhere near fine. Tears fell as I read the tiny glimpses into the things we’ve been carrying around.

“I don’t understand my feelings.”

“Shame.”

“A LOT OF SHAME.”

“Abandoned.”

“Insecure.”

“Angry.”

“Worry and stress.”

“Beaten. Abused. Raped. Ruined. Used.”

“I’ve wanted to die.”

“So many boyfriends.”

“Disappointments.”

“Depression.”

“Feeling unloved and unwanted.”

How do we handle all of this baggage? Sitting in a pile of so much pain, the only thing I could think to do was pray. Consistent, compassionate prayer is what I can do for you, and I do it most days. Did you know that someone out there is praying for you? I keep all of the paper suitcases in an orange folder and I take them out to think of you and pray. But what can you do for yourself? Here are a few ideas for being an effective Baggage Handler.

  1. Buddy System
    It’s not just for elementary school field trips! Any time you find yourself venturing into unfamiliar, unpredictable or potentially scary territory—take a friend. Don’t expect any of your peers to be prepared or equipped to help you completely work through your baggage, but be sure that someone knows what you’re going through. A buddy can help you hold onto the end of your rope (if you come to it) and identify when it’s time to ask for more help (which we often can’t see for ourselves when things get tough).
  2. Stay Connected
    The easiest time to fall or be led away from Jesus if when isolation sets in. The devil can’t get a foothold if he has to step in between you and your family, friends and pastor! Independence is not what Christians are called to. Remember the cheetah and the gazelles? The hunter will always go for the easiest prey: the very old, the very young, the weak, and the loners. When we embrace a culture of inter-dependence, we learn to live in true community with one another. Be aware of becoming too close to people who encourage you to skip youth group or stay home from church events. Nothing good grows in darkness, and that includes relationships.
  3. Be vulnerable
    When you find a sibling, friend, or adult you trust, pray for a willingness to open up. The Bible tells us that “a brother is born for adversity, and a friend loves at all times,” Prov. 17:17 NIV. Love can just be a listening ear; love can be a 2 A.M. milk shake! Love can also be stepping outside of your comfort zone, even if your friend asks you not to. Beloved counselors in my life have always told me that there are 3 instances where keeping secrets becomes dangerous: when a person has a plan for hurting themselves, when a person has a plan for hurting someone else, or when a person is habitually being hurt by someone in their life. Include a trusted youth leader or adult if the bags are too big for you to handle. The more we tell the truth—even when it means risking rejection—the easier it becomes to be honest. No matter how scary it is, we all need somebody to lean on!

ModFem 2016 | Bridal Edition | Recap

It has been a whole week since the wrap of ModFem 2016…and I’m missing you all! I hope that you are rocking those ModFem t-shirts and sharing the love of Jesus with those you encounter…remember, you may be the only Jesus that someone sees!

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This year’s theme was Bridal Edition. We discussed the Old, the New, the Borrowed, and the Blue aspects of being a bride of Christ. Relationships should be free from baggage, intentional, marriage is sacred, and our God is truly a loving God who WANTS to have a meaningful, loving, merciful relationship with us! We are all flawed, but He covers us in His grace and loves us unconditionally. As we mature and begin the search for the man that God has chosen for us, we should bear in mind that a person can never fill the God-sized hole in our hearts.

Our Speakers were (from left to right), ModFem alumni Sarah, myself (Megan), Breezy, and Joanna!

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Craft time: making bracelets…

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Early Saturday morning workout: thanks to those who came out to workout with me!

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Worship: led by Breezy.

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Thank you to Rebekah for signing for us!

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Competing to create the best toilet paper wedding dresses!

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Congrats teams! Job well done!

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Small group: around indoor campfires:)

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LOVE our volunteers, wish I had photos of them all.

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We wrapped up the retreat with a Reception! Many of you all shared that you hadn’t ever attended a wedding reception before…so I shared with some of you my favorite parts of a reception: dancing…and the punch!!

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A few ladies took advantage of the photobooth!

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Want to give a special thanks to our adult volunteers and those who made donations:

Jane, Tammy, Brittany, Cindy, Johnnie, Kim, Chris, Karen, Jane, Marie, Joy, Jessica, Jeanne, Hannah, Ginny, Michelle, Annette.

Thank you to Brenda for running our audio/slideshow!

Reception Wedding cake made and donated by: Jessica Casper.

Thank you to those ladies who brought and shared wedding mementos. These items were definitely priceless.

Next year’s theme: Daughters of the King.
Hope to see you there!!

-Megan

Reception Style | ModFem 2016

ModFem 2016 is quickly approaching! Today is actually the deadline for registration, however, if you still would like to attend, please do not hesitate to contact us!

As we prepare for this year’s Bridal Edition, we wanted to share some reception attire for you ladies:) During the Closing Celebration next weekend at ModFem, we will be celebrating with a reception. Who doesn’t love to have a good time, right? So why not tie in a party to our Bridal-themed weekend?!

Here are 3 different looks, created by yours truly:)

 

Reception with Tiffany: for a classy, sophisticated look.

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Vintage Hop Reception: retro class.

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Country Chic Reception: stylish, yet still dressy:)

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Each of us has our own style…we just have to be sure that we are respecting our bodies (and our hearts) when we present ourselves. These looks aren’t set in stone for how your style should be at the ModFem reception…just some fun suggestions. I can’t wait to see you all next weekend!

Megan

Be a…man?

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contributed by Breezy Peterson

Here at ModFem (which stands for Modest Female, in case you were wondering), we’re all about encouraging and training up amazing girls to be Godly women. We pour our hearts into this conference. We cover it with prayer. We cook and clean and bake our socks off at Camp Pitt—for you! We do it all for the young ladies we love and the young ladies we have yet to meet (but we know we’ll absolutely love them, too).

So why are we taking a time out to talk about being a man?

Let’s be honest. You’ve probably already thought about that “special someone” today. If we want to be really honest, you probably stalked his Insta or checked for his Snapchats or looked for his texts before you even poured yourself a bowl of cereal this morning.

Come on.

Fess up.

As your Titus 2 Women, WE have to find a God-honoring way to talk to you about guys and help you think about guys and figure out how to be in relationships with guys because YOU already are! Or you want to be. And we don’t want you wandering into that battle field unarmed.

Each new idea you encounter outside of Scripture that concerns boys adds a new dimension to the Prince Charming you are building in your head. If you accept what you watch on TV and in movies, what you hear about in song lyrics, or what you see on all those “teenager” memes—your Prince Charming is going to fall incredibly short of what God desires a man to be.

Why is that?

Because being a boy in the world today is a lot less demanding than being a man in God’s Word any day.

If you’re not sure what God wants of men, here are a few helpful hints: A Godly man has more time for the Bible than his Xbox, more interest in your soul than how short your skirt is, and a greater love for Jesus than for sleeping in.

If this very basic description of your crush or BF does not describe his behavior—he’s not a man. In fact, just like you, he’s got a long way to go before he reaches Godly adulthood.

God calls all Christians to forgive readily, to love justice, to always be truthful, to show mercy, and to walk humbly. That’s a pretty tall order for a kid who’s still in middle school or high school.

We don’t expect you at this point in your life to know any Godly men your age. That wouldn’t be reasonable. Nor do we expect you to never want to be “more than just a friend” to that special someone in your life.

But if you want him to someday be a guy worthy of being called a man, encourage him! Spur him on towards love and good deeds! Hold him accountable for any unforgiveness in his heart. Praise him when he confesses his shortcomings. Thank him for opening doors. Admire his affection for his little brothers or sisters.

Be

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friend.

One day, he will be a man. He may not be swift as a coursing river, or have the force of a great typhoon. Honestly, that sounds kind of scary any way. With time and encouragement, he will grow in Christ’s likeness—and that is the most attractive thing any guy can do.